{"id":6230,"date":"2023-03-21T23:56:55","date_gmt":"2023-03-21T22:56:55","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.sofasexologique.com\/comment-etre-dans-le-mood\/"},"modified":"2023-03-22T00:57:36","modified_gmt":"2023-03-21T23:57:36","slug":"comment-etre-dans-le-mood","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.sofasexologique.com\/en\/comment-etre-dans-le-mood\/","title":{"rendered":"How to be in the &#8220;mood&#8221;?"},"content":{"rendered":"\t\t<div data-elementor-type=\"wp-post\" data-elementor-id=\"6230\" class=\"elementor elementor-6230 elementor-6184\" data-elementor-settings=\"[]\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-section-wrap\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-c4e4604 elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"c4e4604\" data-element_type=\"section\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-ca1712e\" data-id=\"ca1712e\" data-element_type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-60c81ed elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"60c81ed\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p><b><u>What is the context that allows your brain to be sexually available and interested?<\/u><\/b><\/p><p class=\"MsoNormal\">As a general rule, we are inclined to interpret a situation as fun, sexy, pleasant, and safe when the context contains :<\/p><p class=\"MsoNormal\">&#8211; High level of trust<\/p><p class=\"MsoNormal\">&#8211; High level of affection<\/p><p class=\"MsoNormal\">&#8211; Low level of stress<\/p><p class=\"MsoNormal\">&#8211; Explicitly erotic<\/p><p class=\"MsoNormal\">\u00a0<\/p><p><b>More specifically, a sex-positive context is influenced by the following aspects:<\/b><\/p><p class=\"MsoListParagraphCxSpFirst\" style=\"text-indent: -18.0pt; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1;\"><span style=\"font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol; mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol;\">\u00b7<span style=\"font: 7.0pt 'Times New Roman';\">\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 <\/span><\/span><b><i>Mental and physical well-being<\/i><\/b> (characteristics related to self): being confident and healthy, both emotionally and physically, free of stress or chronic and acute pain, having a good body image, mood\/anxiety, distractibility, concern about sexual function (e.g., constantly thinking about one&#8217;s erection, or vaginal lubrication), etc.<br \/><br \/><\/p><p class=\"MsoListParagraphCxSpMiddle\" style=\"text-indent: -18.0pt; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1;\"><span style=\"font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol; mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol;\">\u00b7<span style=\"font: 7.0pt 'Times New Roman';\">\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 <\/span><\/span><b><i>Partner characteristics<\/i><\/b> (characteristics related to the other): having an attractive partner who respects and accepts us deeply as who we are, their physical appearance, their physical health, their smell, their mental state, etc.<br \/><br \/><\/p><p class=\"MsoListParagraphCxSpMiddle\" style=\"text-indent: -18.0pt; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1;\"><span style=\"font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol; mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol;\">\u00b7<span style=\"font: 7.0pt 'Times New Roman';\">\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 <\/span><\/span><b><i>Relationship characteristics<\/i>: <\/b>having full trust in the other (no unaddressed issues), feeling affection, and feeling wanted by the other, power dynamics, level of emotional connection, etc.<br \/><br \/><\/p><p class=\"MsoListParagraphCxSpMiddle\" style=\"text-indent: -18.0pt; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1;\"><span style=\"font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol; mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol;\">\u00b7<span style=\"font: 7.0pt 'Times New Roman';\">\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 <\/span><\/span><b><i>Environment<\/i><\/b>: being in an environment that deactivates &#8220;turn offs&#8221; and activates &#8220;turn ons&#8221; &#8211; such as being on vacation or at home with the door locked -, explicitly erotic cues such as erotic literature, porn or hearing\/seeing others having sex, being in public\/private, seeing the other do something positive such as interacting with family or seeing the other shine at work, having long distance sex, etc.<br \/><br \/><\/p><p class=\"MsoListParagraphCxSpMiddle\" style=\"text-indent: -18.0pt; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1;\"><span style=\"font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol; mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol;\">\u00b7<span style=\"font: 7.0pt 'Times New Roman';\">\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 <\/span><\/span><b><i>Other life factors<\/i><\/b>: life stress, family stress, work stress, money stress, news and socio-political state of the world, and all other non-sexual factors that influence our brain (the largest sexual organ), celebrations, birthdays, other occasions, etc.<br \/><br \/><\/p><p>\u00a0<\/p><p class=\"MsoListParagraphCxSpLast\" style=\"text-indent: -18.0pt; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1;\"><span style=\"font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol; mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol;\">\u00b7<span style=\"font: 7.0pt 'Times New Roman';\">\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 <\/span><\/span><b><i>Ludic factors<\/i><\/b>: the word &#8220;ludic&#8221; comes from the Latin word meaning &#8220;to play&#8221;. Do you feel free to experiment, explore and play with your partner? What sexual activities do you enjoy doing? Self-guided fantasy, fantasy guided by the other partner, doing dirty talk, body parts that have been touched or not, oral sex, etc.<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-81afa8d elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"81afa8d\" data-element_type=\"section\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-da38da2\" data-id=\"da38da2\" data-element_type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-6a3fa66 elementor-widget-divider--view-line elementor-widget elementor-widget-divider\" data-id=\"6a3fa66\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"divider.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-divider\">\n\t\t\t<span class=\"elementor-divider-separator\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/span>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-f3c6808 elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"f3c6808\" data-element_type=\"section\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-cbd06ea\" data-id=\"cbd06ea\" data-element_type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-ba45190 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"ba45190\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p>Source : Nagoski, Emily.\u00a0<i>Come As You Are: Revised and Updated: The Surprising New Science That Will Transform Your Sex Life<\/i>. 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